Feng Shui Myths (3): Bad Marriage, Bad Relationship

Over the years, I have heard so many rumours about how bad Feng Shui at home could cause bad relationship.  These rumours sound very reliable because they are usually supported by Feng Shui theories that seem to be correct.  In this article, I am going to explain whether these rumours are correct or not.

 

Feng Shui Myth 1: Wall Cracks = Bad Marriage?

A very commonly heard Feng Shui myth is that if you found cracks on the walls of your house, your marriage would be bad.  The advocates of this theory suggest that since cracks mean breakage and separation, more cracks at home means higher chance of divorce.

Feng Shui Myths - Wall Cracks

This is absolutely wrong.

If you know a little bit of home decoration, you would know that the plastering on wall is prone to cracks due to natural shrinkage.  And if your house is more than 10 years old, most probably there would be one or two cracks on the wall, not to mention those on the ceiling and floor.  Basically, it is impossible to find a house without any cracks.

So cracks by themselves would not cause bad marriage.  But if the cracks are the result of defects in the building structure, say ground settlement, the defect itself may cause Feng Shui problems.  And certainly, even if you don’t believe in Feng Shui, you would not want to live in a house with structural problems, right?

 

Feng Shui Myth 2: Bad Kitchen Design Brings Two Wives?

Traditionally we believe the Feng Shui of the kitchen affects the housewife of a family.  This is why many Feng Shui myths related to bad marriage concern the kitchen design.

A very common Feng Shui rumour is that if there are two stoves the husband may have an affair with someone else, because the stove means the housewife, and if there are two stoves there would be two housewives in this family, meaning that the husband would fall in love with someone else.

Feng Shui Myths: Feng Shui Kitchen

A similar rumour is that if there are mirrors in the kitchen, when the housewife works in the kitchen the mirror would produce a duplicated image of the housewife.  There would, again, mean that there are more than one housewives in this family.

You may also have heard of that if there are two refrigerators in a kitchen, the chance of the husband having an affair would be high.  Basically, all these rumours are supported by a fundamental belief, that there should be only one kitchen and everything in the kitchen should be the only set in that kitchen.  Following this principle, you may even say that there should not be two ovens or wash basins in a kitchen.

These are all nonsense.

Firstly, it is not uncommon to have two housewives in a house.  If there are three generations living in the same house, it is just normal to have two or three housewives under the same roof!  And you can tell by common sense that, unless you live alone there are usually more than one stoves in your kitchen!  Don’t believe in these bullshxt theories!

 

Feng Shui Myth 3: Ivy Causes Bad Marriage

Some people believe that ivy, or hedera, hedera helix, etc., planted inside a house may cause bad marriage.  The idea behind may be that ivy is a climbing plant that is attached to a base structure, so it carries the meaning of having a third person clinging to a family member’s marriage.  And the stems of ivy is not straight but curved, so it may mean hiccups in a marriage.

Again, this myth is totally wrong.  In contrast, ivy is a good Feng Shui plant that may bring wealth if used properly.  While analogy is widely used in Feng Shui, it does not mean that you can arbitrarily make a conclusion simply because the shape of something looks like something else.

 

To conclude, Feng Shui has an effect on relationship and marriage but it is not the only factor.  The key to a successful marriage is the efforts that the couple made to maintain a good relationship.  If the love is real, it is unlikely that a plant or two stoves at home could cause any damage.